"The pain in life is contingent upon one's expectations" Eddie Falco on auditioning for The Sopranos:

I went in, and I just did exactly what this character should be in my mind, from my estimation — also knowing that there was no way I'd get cast because I was not the stereotypical Italian-American-looking actress, and I knew who was. There's something very powerful about going in to just do it for the heck of it.

You know, there's a huge lesson in there. The pain in life is contingent upon one's expectations for the most part. ... So I was calm and relaxed. ...

from Fresh Air: http://www.npr.org/2014/04/09/300983914/edie-falco-on-sobriety-the-sopranos-and-nurse-jackies-self-medication